Monday, February 12, 2007

something your relationship needs to know

thanks to a friend I've had a little discovery recently - the 5 languages of apology, by gary chapman. the one and same gary chapman who wrote the 5 love languages which if you haven't read I also really recommend (it helps you work out how you express and recieve love to help you communicate better with your partner, family & friends). so anyway, the languages of apology came up for fran and I and it made so much sense... if fran and I have a 'to do' and he needs to say sorry to me I have generally found his expression of apology lacking in intention and feeling and don't really feel like he understands how much he's hurt me or that he's really sorry and wants to make it up to me. then I read the language of apology thing and realised I really like him to show me he's sorry by making it up to me/doing something proactive to change. and it's so nice to know that his expression of apology is genuine but just a different form of communication to mine, which is a big verbal profuse gushing of apology! anyway, I thought I'd blog about it because I've mentioned it to a few friends and got the same reaction everytime... a pause of realisation ... and then 'oh yer, I hadn't thought of that' and it just made me think - how many times do issues not get resolved especially in marriages/partnerships because one person doesn't feel properly understood or their hurt made up for by an apology that is meanigful to them?

we got a message today from our rental agent that we have to be out of our place by march 28th - we kind of expected it after all the hassle with the mouldy rooms etc and I'm a bit suspicious they might try to screw us for every penny of the bond to make up for the work they had to do... how to be wise as serpents but innocent as doves with our rental agents...? unfortunately they have by far the most properties in town so there's a good chance the next place will be with them too... prayer appreciated for another place to rent - we'd like a house (not unit/apartment) with 2+ bedrooms, a bath and garage in a sunny location on the frankton side of town and not at the top of a mahussive hill for $350 a week or less, which is quite a tall order!

I fancy coffee all the time at the moment. I'm not sure if it's just a change in taste or the slow start of an addiction, but I find myself daydreaming about having a coffee machine that makes cappucinos at home. maybe one day...

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Tuesday, February 13, 2007 11:34:00 am  

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